Self-love is the main element that shapes and establishes the core of your most important relationship—the one with yourself. The strength of your relationship with others is built on that foundation. Therefore, loving yourself is not just for boosting your morale as a person. More importantly, it is a precondition to sincerely loving others.
Nicholas De Chamfort once said, “If you must love your neighbor as yourself, it is at least as fair to love yourself as your neighbour.” Self-love is not about self-absorption. It’s not about self-comparison to determine your state among other people. It’s not always about proclaiming yourself to be the first, being inconsiderate of others. Lastly, it’s not always about winning and being the number one in everything.
To love yourself is to be astonished by the mystery of your existence. It is to embrace yourself as you are—the “brightness and the darkness”, the “contented and the miserable” — while knowing that your authenticity as a person is significantly beyond the duplicity of the physical domain.
Self-love gives emphasis on acknowledging your values, their perimeters and cherishing them. When you love yourself, you show others that you respect and value yourself. In addition, loving yourself enables you to celebrate the success of other people without any grudge or resentment.
"You can only give away what you have. If you have love, you can give it. If you don’t have it, you don’t have it to give,” Leo Buscaglia once said. Some people have the eagerness to love others, but they don’t actually realize that they don’t have the same love for themselves. Loving yourself will ignite your sincerity in loving others. Love yourself and your relationships will metamorphose in astounding ways.
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Siddhartha Gautama Buddha
– Jay-R P. Daguyen, School of Teacher Education